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Janurary:
Me: Since no one else can be arsed, I'm taking charge of the bills.
Rick (flatmate): Hang on, I think they're charging us for the previous' tenants' unpaid power bills. I have a brother who works at another power company. Let me deal with this.
Me: Fine.
(Three months pass)
Me: The power company is getting real insistent now.
Rick: I'll take care of it.
Me: I suggest emailing them.
Yesterday:
Letter from power company: We may be about to cut you off.
Rick: I need a reading from Sept, when we moved in.
Me: I've had that for months. Here.
Rick: Do you know how to email them? These phone calls to them are costing me a fortune.
Me:
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I got in an argument with someone who said that the problem with the friendzone concept is that it paints being just friends with an attractive woman as terrible.

I pointed out that, by definition, the term referred to someone being just a friend with another they'd rather have a relationship with.

He responded, among other things, that "we" weren't discussing the actual meaning of the word anymore, but its "social context", and how it "devalues opposite-sex friendships". He was unable to actually answer to my question regarding what was wrong about preferring a relationship over a friendship, though he did respond to it with one of those things that looks like a answer if you read it quickly and squint, but is actually answering a question no one asked.

A short time later, he was reduced to arguing that the way people interpret a term determines what it really means, and what the speaker was trying to say was entirely irrelevant.

The funniest part was that at one point, he was accusing me of "ignoring" the context that was part of "real" meaning, while he was deliberately strawmanning the definition of "friend zone" by cutting off the most important part of it. It's like trying to talk about the meaning of a movie by watching half the movie.

The strangest thing is that I know of more people claiming "friendzone" is just used by men who thought they deserved to bang their female friends and were whining about it than actual examples that supposedly indicate such. Almost as if they assumed that's what it meant and never checked.

Entirely by coincidence, people who equate men who complain about the friendzone with entitled dicks, also tend to assume they're Nice Guys™, and to be Internet Feminists. I wonder why they, of all people would be particularly susceptible to unproven, unbacked nonsense that conflates different groups together and just happens to reinforce their preconceptions.
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Also, he said Lin was Korra's mother figure, not Pema.

So, I just had a discussion with someone on dA who argued that Korra clearly prizes benders over non-Benders. He cited, as an example, the way she fell for Mako when she saw him win the pro-bending thingy, despite thinking he was a jerk up to that point.

Because women never, ever fall for guys who are good at sports because they are good at sports.

Link, in the interests of fairness, just so you can see his entire argument. I don't want to be accused of being a person who makes up stuff for
Internet Points. I honestly think he makes some good points in there, but seems to assume that Korra had no character development. When she arrives in Republic City, Bending is her hammer, and everything looks like a nail.

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"Issues are fractal."

Writer on Kotaku This is an article about how depressing it was when I, like many 90s kids, realized I wasn't as special as I was told.

Me: You know what's also depressing? I actually am "special". I'm much smarter than most people, but I feel just as lost and directionless. I was even suicidal for a while.

Idiot 1: Whenever someone tells me they're smart, I assume they're full of [bovine poop].

Idiot 2: If you're so smart, [anus], why don't you just solve all your problems?

Me (to Idiot 2): Because my entire point was that being smart doesn't necessarily make you better at solving your personal problems. Or did you not notice how many talented, intelligent people, like John Nash or Van Gogh end up with personal lives that are complete wrecks?

Over the course of the chat, idiot 2 would demonstrate quite well that he has basically no idea of how psychology or psychiatry work. For example, he responded that so many talented people had screwed up lives because they prioritized their passion over their personal life. Despite the fact that the two men I mentioned are well known for having mental health issues that interfered with their work. In fact, Nash kept finding his work interrupted by being involuntarily committed. After I proved him wrong with just about everything, he tried the "make witty one-liner and walk away" tactic, after which I further proved him wrong and got him to come back He also seemed to have trouble wrapping his head around the idea that you can't just deal with one issue and expect all your problems to end. That's why therapy takes years.